Bullying is a repeated, aggressive behavior that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. Its purpose is to deliver a physical, psychological harm to another person.
Mayo clinic a mental disordering which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others. But behind this mask of ultra confidence lies a fragile self esteem that's vulnerable to slightest critics.
One of the difficulties with bullies is that they often start with more power because they are bigger, stronger or in position of authority. They also suck in power from everyone around them so their strength seems to grow as their victim's strength diminishes.
Effects of Bullying
Bullying
can affect everyone—those who are bullied and those who bully. Also,it is linked to many negative outcomes
including impacts on mental health, substance use, and suicide. It is
important to talk to kids to determine whether bullying—or something
else—is a concern.
Kids Who are Bullied
People who are bullied can experience negative physical, school, and
mental health issues. Kids who are bullied are more likely to
experience:
- Depression and anxiety, increased feelings of
sadness and loneliness, changes in sleep and eating patterns, and loss
of interest in activities they used to enjoy. These issues may persist
into adulthood.
- Health complaints
- Decreased academic achievement—GPA and standardized test scores—and
school participation. They are more likely to miss, skip, or drop out
of school.
Kids Who Bully Others
Kids who bully others can also engage in violent and other risky behaviors into adulthood. Kids who bully are more likely to:
- Abuse alcohol and other drugs in adolescence and as adults
- Get into fights, vandalize property, and drop out of school
- Engage in early sexual activity
- Have criminal convictions and traffic citations as adults
- Be abusive toward their romantic partners, spouses, or children as adults
How to Overcome Bully
BE CONFIDENT - bullies lose their strength if you don't cower, deep down, they deserve your respect. They admire you for speaking with self-assurance and confidence. So when they bombard, challenge you, don't Counter punch rather, win them over with your strong, firm, courteous demeanor.
STAY CONNECTED- bullies operate by making their victims feel alone and powerless, people redeem and reclaim their power when they make and maintain connections with faithful and supportive friends.
USE SIMPLE, UNEMOTIONAL LANGUAGE - Whitson wrote that an assertive but unemotional response let a bully 'know that the victim does not intend to be victimized. He or she does not seek forgiveness, but does not pose a challenge either.
SET LIMITS - this helps to remain polite and professional while still setting your limits firmly. Don't let the bully get under your skin because that's what he wants.
ACT QUICKLY AND CONSISTENTLY - the longer a bully has power over a victim, the stronger the hold becomes. Bullying begins in a relatively mild form.
STRIKE WHILE THE IRON IS COLD - rather that exchanging hostilities, step back so that you will nor respond in the heat of the moment and meeting then on their own level.
LEAVING THE SCAR BEHIND - bullying is one of the hardest things to do, when done, it leaves a scare behind.
FINDING THE STRENGTH - try to find the strength to understand, process and over come what you have experienced.
ACCEPT YOUR EMOTIONS - it is natural under the circumstances to feel a mixture of emotions. You may be feeling sad, anxious and very low or possibly angry and violated. As a result of the bullying you could be feeling depressed and may want to move away from the world
MANAGING THE STRESS - try to understand how bullying has a knock on effect on the mental health.
HELP OTHERS -when you have experienced such trauma like bullying, you may feel a need ti use the knowledge and understanding that you havr gained to help others who are been bullied.
Jay
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